I find it interesting, sad, and familiar that Charlie ascribes problems, real or imagined, to a physical characteristic she cannot change. Is anything, even sex, ever ideal? And where does the ideal come from anyway? It’s funny too because she has no basis for comparison, so she neglects the fact that everything can be perfectly awful even for an owner of a perfectly ordinary vagina and their partner. We often tell ourselves all our problems come from some issue that we obsess over, but just maybe that’s not the real problem at all. Find a way to love yourself Charlie… and everyone. (Excellent page Tab.)
While most of me is aching to reach through the screen and give her a hug – from a storytelling POV, I really like the fact that Charlie is much more confident with her body, but not 100% confident yet, and can still go off into a worry spiral fairly easily. It makes the story very realistic.
(Hope that didn’t come off as mean, I wouldn’t feel that way about a real person – genuinely just liking the storytelling side, not the ‘person feeling bad’ side)
Everyone has a ‘thing’. My ‘thing’ is that I get the giggles during sex; probably not as ‘thing’-y as a physical ‘thing’, but does seem to put a lot of guys off – even had them go completely soft they were so not fine with it! – which is understandable, but not something I can help, since when I’m happy, I laugh, and when they don’t like it, i’m such a special kind if crazy I laugh more, which…helps not. :)
The only ideal is finding someone who can enjoy your ‘thing’. I’m lucky to have a guy who, instead of getting freaked and self-conscious, responds that he’ll give me something to laugh about and tickles me mercilessly during sex. Charlie has a guy who finds Ger beautiful and sexy just as she is, vagina be damned. That’s not settling, it’s compatibility and love. We all just need to be better at recognising that in others instead of focusing on how they shouldn’t be allowed to love us, ‘thing’ and all. Now THAT’S an ideal we could all get behind!
We dream of the ideal; we receive reality. Sometimes, the two overlap but the rest of the time, we have to accept that they don’t and know the enjoyment, pleasure, pain, and sadness we live are ours. And sometimes, if we’re lucky, we have someone to share our reality with and to share our aspirations to the ideal.
Keep being awesome, Tab. Your storytelling and art remain so and I thank you for sharing it.
This reminds me so much of my boyfriend and I. We are both transmen (FtM), but he has a much harder time accepting it than I do. I’m one of those guys who don’t mind using the female parts, because I became comfortable over time, but he can’t stand the fact that he has no penis, and it often makes him feel like he’s not doing a good enough “job” with me because he doesn’t have a real one… which is totally untrue! What matters is how both people feel, not which parts are used and if they’re real or not.
I’m in a similar situation, I’m FtM but I’m alright with the downstairs bits. Although I do wish I could father children, that’s my dilemma. So I see your feelings on both sides. Honestly, my fiancee loves me for me, and she makes me happy, and that’s really all that matters to me.
I can relate to this as well. I’m a non-binary trans* guy in a relationship with a cis guy. In the beginning we definitely had a lot of moments similar to this one. I was uncomfortable with my parts and we didn’t know how to make things work just right between us so I often felt bad or “fucked up.” We’re kind of at an opposite point now though. I’m comfortable using my parts now, but I don’t always get there using them. My partner tends to feel really bad when he does and I don’t. It’s not quite the same thing as Charlie is facing here, or what I faced before, but it does get in the way of the afterglow sometimes.
I get how both of you feel. I am okay with my lady bits – mostly – and I don’t mind using them. But since I’m a mostly gay dude I very much like and value penises and I reeeeeeally really want one. I’m now trying to date and stuff as a transman and well… it’s hard enough getting off by myself and not feeling dysphoria. I have no idea how I’m going to manage it with another person. But I also don’t want to live in stasis for 2-5 years, particularly with the Testosterone kicking my libido into overdrive. So, it sucks.
I’ve had to take a while to work up the courage to read all of these new side stories, but finally getting around to Jamie and Charlie has been worth it. They remain the Khaos people I feel most for, and the portions of their story you’ve drawn for us have all been excellent.
Poor Charlie, don’t let expectations ruin your fun, he liked it, he said he liked it throughout, it’s fine honey. HUGS!!
I must know,
Does he call her sweet pea because of her green hair?
TRiG.
That would be adorable if so.
*hit by a wave of feels*
…wow. I have to say… I think this is my favorite comic to date… by a wide margin
I find it interesting, sad, and familiar that Charlie ascribes problems, real or imagined, to a physical characteristic she cannot change. Is anything, even sex, ever ideal? And where does the ideal come from anyway? It’s funny too because she has no basis for comparison, so she neglects the fact that everything can be perfectly awful even for an owner of a perfectly ordinary vagina and their partner. We often tell ourselves all our problems come from some issue that we obsess over, but just maybe that’s not the real problem at all. Find a way to love yourself Charlie… and everyone. (Excellent page Tab.)
While most of me is aching to reach through the screen and give her a hug – from a storytelling POV, I really like the fact that Charlie is much more confident with her body, but not 100% confident yet, and can still go off into a worry spiral fairly easily. It makes the story very realistic.
(Hope that didn’t come off as mean, I wouldn’t feel that way about a real person – genuinely just liking the storytelling side, not the ‘person feeling bad’ side)
Everyone has a ‘thing’. My ‘thing’ is that I get the giggles during sex; probably not as ‘thing’-y as a physical ‘thing’, but does seem to put a lot of guys off – even had them go completely soft they were so not fine with it! – which is understandable, but not something I can help, since when I’m happy, I laugh, and when they don’t like it, i’m such a special kind if crazy I laugh more, which…helps not. :)
The only ideal is finding someone who can enjoy your ‘thing’. I’m lucky to have a guy who, instead of getting freaked and self-conscious, responds that he’ll give me something to laugh about and tickles me mercilessly during sex. Charlie has a guy who finds Ger beautiful and sexy just as she is, vagina be damned. That’s not settling, it’s compatibility and love. We all just need to be better at recognising that in others instead of focusing on how they shouldn’t be allowed to love us, ‘thing’ and all. Now THAT’S an ideal we could all get behind!
We dream of the ideal; we receive reality. Sometimes, the two overlap but the rest of the time, we have to accept that they don’t and know the enjoyment, pleasure, pain, and sadness we live are ours. And sometimes, if we’re lucky, we have someone to share our reality with and to share our aspirations to the ideal.
Keep being awesome, Tab. Your storytelling and art remain so and I thank you for sharing it.
THE FEEEEEEELS
Dear God I should not have read this at work. Not because of the nudity but because of the FEELS! I can’t deal with them!
This reminds me so much of my boyfriend and I. We are both transmen (FtM), but he has a much harder time accepting it than I do. I’m one of those guys who don’t mind using the female parts, because I became comfortable over time, but he can’t stand the fact that he has no penis, and it often makes him feel like he’s not doing a good enough “job” with me because he doesn’t have a real one… which is totally untrue! What matters is how both people feel, not which parts are used and if they’re real or not.
I’m in a similar situation, I’m FtM but I’m alright with the downstairs bits. Although I do wish I could father children, that’s my dilemma. So I see your feelings on both sides. Honestly, my fiancee loves me for me, and she makes me happy, and that’s really all that matters to me.
I can relate to this as well. I’m a non-binary trans* guy in a relationship with a cis guy. In the beginning we definitely had a lot of moments similar to this one. I was uncomfortable with my parts and we didn’t know how to make things work just right between us so I often felt bad or “fucked up.” We’re kind of at an opposite point now though. I’m comfortable using my parts now, but I don’t always get there using them. My partner tends to feel really bad when he does and I don’t. It’s not quite the same thing as Charlie is facing here, or what I faced before, but it does get in the way of the afterglow sometimes.
I get how both of you feel. I am okay with my lady bits – mostly – and I don’t mind using them. But since I’m a mostly gay dude I very much like and value penises and I reeeeeeally really want one. I’m now trying to date and stuff as a transman and well… it’s hard enough getting off by myself and not feeling dysphoria. I have no idea how I’m going to manage it with another person. But I also don’t want to live in stasis for 2-5 years, particularly with the Testosterone kicking my libido into overdrive. So, it sucks.
WAH! He calls her ‘sweetpea.’ How fooking adorable!
I’m just going to go weep in a corner now. That was beautiful.
Thank you, that was quite nice. Your story brings back the memory of the first time with my own mtf GF.
I’ve had to take a while to work up the courage to read all of these new side stories, but finally getting around to Jamie and Charlie has been worth it. They remain the Khaos people I feel most for, and the portions of their story you’ve drawn for us have all been excellent.