Shades Of A 025
Uncomfortable small talk time! When you’re trying to get to know someone but have no idea what kind of landmines you’ll step into.
In other news, Pervocracy, a favourite blog of mine wrote an interesting article about feminism and BDSM. Go forth and read it with your eyeballs!
I knew the last scene would be some awkward pause before the text was added… and I was right! Haha I wasn’t expecting something so darkly awkward though… I don’t know whether to chuckle at Chris’ embarrassment or groan at Anwar’s very dry delivery. This whole thing just screamed “disaster” as soon as the text implied that Anwar was clearly distressed about the idea that this might be a date.
The most awkward conversation in the history of awkward conversations :).
I get that all the time.
‘What about your Dad?’
‘He’s dead.’
Awkward pause.
‘Oh, I’m sorry.’
‘Don’t be, he’s been dead for more than 20 years!’
Sigh! Why do people think it’s such a misstep not to know that? People die all the time, and some of them are parents.
Chis should be more worried about Anwar’s uneasiness with the ‘date’ yhing.
Yeah, I have dealt with that my entire life. I lost my mum in childbirth and my dad last year (I am only 25). I am usually mildly amused when people get all flustered, but boy did I love it in junior high when stupid kids would say something disparaging about my mum and I could say that she is dead and that would be necrophilia. ^_^
Yeah, that’s definitely happened to me before. One stupid kid said something about him having sex with my mother last night, to which I replied,
“She’s dead, you sick fuck!” (Yes, I did really say that.)
The reactions were pretty priceless, and spectators damned him for not knowing beforehand in a mocking fashion.
All in all? A situation of bullying hilariously averted.
It’s totally understandable why people think that’s a misstep.. you never know if it’s still an open wound, if it was never a big deal, if it’s finally ok… You can’t know, so of course you think you kind of put your foot in it.
That and the fact it’s rarely “good news” when someone die.
As someone with dead parents, Chris’s reaction is pretty hilarious to me. It’s like “Yeah, they’re dead, and why are you making faces at me?” Anyway, I really like the article you linked. Very nice.
“Awkward stare”-time…
I can trump Chris’s awkward moment, after trying to change the subject in an already awkward conversation to their parents, they responded with “..my parents are dead” and I let out a burst of laughter. The most horrible I have ever felt
*hug* It’s ok. I am sure your foot was mighty tasty and that is why you stuck it in your mouth.
I literally had to come back to tell you that I was still laughing at this reply three pages later. That was hilarious I’m going to use that.
CHRIS: “You’re not a serial killer are you?” *Awful Asexual stereotype time!!*
ANWAR: Oh FUUUUU *flips table and storms out*
XD
Chris’s face in the last panel is awesome.
This made me laugh way too much. I can’t- holy shit, man.
OOH, article. *grabby hands*
Just stopped by after about two months- after you finished reading Khaos, I read what you had up here (3 pages) and checked out… Glad I checked back in… This reminds me of my first experiences with kink some years ago.
*OOPS. should say after I finished reading khaos.
How can you be a feminist and do BDSM?
I find it rather sexist to assume that submissive equals female.
Well, the woman doesn’t have to be the submissive one. Just because you enjoy things like bdsm in the bedroom doesn’t mean you support unequal treatment elsewhere. And it isn’t unequal in bdsm anyway, or at least not in a bad way. Everyone is enjoying it and getting what they want out of it, even if its getting enjoyment from being a dom or a sub. I would argue that is equal–as long as everyone is happy.
There’s nothing in that question that implies to be submissive in BDSM you HAVE to be a woman, or that women are always submissive, it’s simply questioning the theoretical internal conflict that a woman who’s fighting -against- such a stereotype in other areas of life like work, home, or various other social settings might have if they -preferred- being the submissive one. Or, alternatively if someone had an issue with seeing a woman playing a submissive role.
The answer of course, is simple. Whether BDSM is a hobby or a fetish, gender doesn’t define necessity as far as who’s dominant and who’s submissive, so it’s perfectly acceptable for a feminist to be submissive as long as she’s consented too it. That’s all. :]
I’ve seen it argued that even if the woman is playing a domme role she’s not upholding feminist values. I mean, she’s still fighting certain stereotypes. Dommes are expected to look a certain way, especially pro-dommes, and then that gets into the whole “sex work” minefield aspect of it.
I think the simplest answer is that in BDSM it is a very deliberate and active choice by the participants – whether to give or recieve pain, whether to submit or dominate, whether to tie up or be bound. Gender doesn’t direct which of those roles if any one “must” take. One’s kink preferences and inner being do.
The strongest feminist is the one who can simply be herself. (In fact, I find it interesting when a feminist still labels things as feminine and masculine. In so doing, even if she’s insisting on doing the masculine things, she has “accepted” the status quo that it is not normally something a woman would do.)
And Chris steps on allllll the landmines!
HAHA. Yes, that last frame had me literally laughing aloud. I can’t decide whether Anwar is really that completely unconcerned or is wearing one heck of a poker face to hide his smug enjoyment of the moment.
Hahahahaha, this page is total win. I don’t even have words. The whole set-up. The last page. The expressions… Win.
I get the feeling it’s a very good thing Chris didn’t have any of that drink in his mouth right then. Doubt it would’ve been a spit-take, but poor guy probably would have half choked half snorted it!
Also, had a similar conversation in a language class. We were learning to talk about other people and someone asked “What does your grandfather do for a living?” My response was “He was an engineer.” Followed by “What does he do now?” I think I nearly killed the poor guy when I asked the teacher how to say “died.” Somehow said it right as the rest of the class paused for breath, too, so everyone heard it. It was a magically awkward moment for all.
ah, yes, a page on my birthday that’s also quite possibly the single comic page I can relate the most to out of every comic page I have ever read
absolutely loving how genuine this comic is
Just want to say I am incredibly pleased by the fact that you like Pervocracy. Squee!
WELL AREN’T YOU CHEERFUL FOR CHATTER ANWAR