Shades After 044
Happy new years eve! Shades started updating 1st January 2013 so happy 2nd birthday to Anwar, Chris and JD.
Thank you all for being my lovelies- to those who have been around since the start, those who helped with the research when Shades was just a concept, and those brand new readers who keep injecting new life and thoughts into our comment section. I hope this year is a good one for you :)
Evil cliffie!
(BTW, thank you so much for all your stuff)
hello fellow rivka from the future. (i’m always excited to find a name-twin) :)
Mamma has a sudden idea! I suspect it’s a good idea.
TRiG.
I just loooove the details in the first panel! Those eyelashes, and the hair, just wow. Great job Tab!
Awww thankee! It’s a fine line between realism and over cluttering so I do what I can. :)
I like how he says “fucking” but uses “shite” instead of shit when exclaiming at his mother. I know it’s a British thing but it amuses me.
In my experience “shite” is a pronunciation of the word you tend to hear amongst people from Irish backgrounds or fans of Father Ted.
So I’d hazard a guess that Anwar & his mum might be from the Liverpool area originally.
I’ve heard that pronunciation all over the place in the UK, though. I’m in Yorkshire and don’t have any Irish relatives (nor do I watch Father Ted) and I hear and use it plenty.
You don’t watch Father Ted?! What’s wrong with you?! Fix that immediately!
TRiG. ;)
I hear and use shit and shite equally, depending on what pops out of my mouth.
“I’m not something that can be fixed. Don’t you think I tried?”
I can relate to that feel :(
Is Mamma pulling over to give her son a big hug?
See I don’t like that message though. He’s saying she can’t fix him because it’s too hard, which comes off as a cry for help, instead of saying that there’s nothing for her to fix. THAT would be asking for acceptance. Of course we’re talking about Anwar, king of mixed signals. “Leave me alone, mom, I’m too broken!” Sure honey.
Thanks for creating a truly unique and interesting comic, Tab, and thank you for letting me play a small part in its creation research-wise. Have an excellent new year!
Okay, Momwar, I’m sure you’re about to do something incredibly touching and sweet and make Anwar not feel like a failure of a human being, but could you make sure he survives long enough to get there?
On that note… yeah. What I wouldn’t give to feel normal. I constantly swing between being okay and accepting being ace to bashing my head in a wall hoping whatever synapse is out of place will fall back in and I can have a normal relationship.
Just because your relationship isn’t what many go for doesn’t make it not “normal”, just different. Most things which are considered “normal” most definitely aren’t very appealing anyways to anyone who is more diverse and intelligent than the run of the mill cookie cutter person.
As long as your decisions lead to the most happiness for you, and don’t harm others, what others think (which is really the only reason one would be worried about their own personal choices when you look deeper into it) is irrelevant. Yeah I know takes awhile; hopefully you know enough accepting people around you to help with the comfort level.
Be open with whoever is your partner and you have nothing to worry about when it comes to being Ace. Screw others’ perceptions. While people may pay attention to who you love (and I’m hoping one day folks with stop being prejudice against gay/bi/trans people) your sex life is no one else’s business. You have nothing to be ashamed of.
I’m sorry that these pervasive heteronormative ideas we’re bombarded with make what are our honest facts and feelings seem so strange and ‘abnormal’ simply because they don’t fit those ideas.
You’re not broken, you don’t need fixing. You’re perfectly okay as you are. Relationships are about so much more than sex, and with the right person, you can have a fulfilling relationship that’s right for the both of you.
Thanks, guys. I know all this but it’s nice to hear all the same, and I guess I need to keep hearing it until I believe it.
I bet she is pulling over so that she can hug him.
Or she just saw a squirrel.
Anwar baby ik those feels sugar, when i first realized I was asexual I figured i just needed to see what sex was like and stuff and id get interested, all I did was disgust myself. I’m so sorry Anwar ik your pain.
“I warned you, ‘War! You get mopey, I start doing doughnuts!”
Glad I’d swallowed my tea when I read that, or it would’ve ended up all over my screen.
Glad I was in the bath, so there was somewhere for my coffee to go :P
Mmm, doughnuts…
Beware a women with a new-found resolution (Very well-timed Tab)
I really hope she’s going to try to do something to make up for her actions towards Chris and Anwar, and not try some desperate attempt to “fix” him. I’m suddenly reminded of that poor trans girl, Leelah.
I auditioned recently for a new circus troupe in Portland that’s only accepting sexual and gender minorities. It’s my resolution this year to reach out to the youths of Oregon, and let them know that they are loved and accepted.
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2 years? What? It can’t have been that long! It’s amazing how time flies and your art grows!
It’s great that she sees her mistake and is like FUCK THAT