Shades Of A 103
On the plus side, all this naked Anwar is easy to colour in.
Discord Comics
A collection of Queer LGBT* Comics by Tab Kimpton
Currently Updating
INFERNAL RELATIONS
Updates Monday
Faster updates & NSFW all on my patreon
Latest Comics
Archive
Buy from the Store
|
 |
Subscribe
For important news about kickstarters, comics and new stuff by TabFollow on Social Media
 |
 |
 |
Anwar. You’re talking to a dude who dresses up in pink sparkly dresses in his downtime and got a divorce over it. I think he knows exactly what you’re talking about.
Totally understand Anwar’s ranr; have had exact same feelings and insecueities…It’s one thing to be comfortable with yourself by yourself, but harder when you have a relationship and feel societal/internal pressures saying sex is necessary and if you don’t want to do that or don’t see your partner sexually, you just feel like something is WRONG with you…
Tab, you are fantastic at making relatable characters
I have just a small critic here : you almost always draw people hairless, and well, I get the fact that body-hair aren’t easy to draw and all but unless some hairy legs, and shadows of armpits, your characters are almost all smooth as wrestlers :/
I was wondering also why Anwar would have “fuck buddy” ? I see how he can want to have friends, boy/girlfriends but fuck friends ? What’s the point ?
A cuddle buddy maybe?
Chris isn’t hairless. I think Anwar is hairless maybe to emphasize his young-ness compared to Chris? Maybe he has a “thing” where he doesn’t like body hair. I knew a few people like that.
I was also wondering about the fuck-buddy thing.
perhaps he was referring to jd?
experimentation??
“I have no idea what makes a relationship that I want without sex being involved.”
I figured that he gets fuck buddies because what he wants out of a relationship is something he thinks he can get only after having sex. Maybe it’s easier to get that when not emotionally involved? Or… hrm. I dunno, but I figured that line was a part of it.
My guess is that with the way most relationships are portrayed and given Anwar’s insecurities with himself and others (etc.), he has never known about non-sexual romantic relationships. We’re not given any information about any relationships he might have had besides JD prior to meeting Chris. What we do know about his relationship with JD is that it WAS sexual. If that’s his only experience in relationships, then it’s perfectly understandable that he is pretty clueless about the fact that relationships do not need/require sex.
(Getting a bit personal here.) I mean c’mon. I was raised to think that everything was black and white; there were men and there were women, and a person was only attracted to the opposite. I didn’t grow up knowing people could feel trapped in the wrong body, that they could like the same gender, feel no attraction to anyone, or some combination of everything out there EVER. Lo and behold I’m this genderfucked tomboy person that prefers women but is likely pansexual or some shit. Where was my start guide for life? It didn’t exist. Just like it doesn’t exist for Anwar.
Just something to think about.
bby.
Can I get a ‘well d’uh’
Heh, believe me, ‘War… he knows.
So glad Anwar is finally having an honest, specific discussion about how he feels about his asexuality and their relationship. I have no doubt Chris is going to come through as the sweetheart that he is. Then they can discuss their sexual expectations/needs, if any, in their relationship.
…aaaaaaaand perspective.
This comic scares me. :(
It’s just the birth control, Jade. It’s just the birth control…
I have this very conversation with my husband every time I feel guilty about not being able to “perform”. We have so little sex already ’cause he knows I’m not into it, so I feel even worse when I have to turn him down on the rare occasions he asks. Of course, him being sweet and understanding only makes the guilt worse.
Your husband sounds like a wonderful person, Sammii, and I think he’s a keeper. *hugs*
In addition to telling Anwar that he doesn’t need to have sex to have an awesome relationship, I really want Chris to tell him that sex can be full of whatever you actually enjoy. Sex can be full of caresses, kisses and cuddles. It is totally possible to have fun sex where one person gets kisses and cuddles only and the other person gets that with genital stimulation. It can be fun giving pleasure to someone you care about, even if that doesn’t work for you. I want Anwar to know both of those things so he can truly figure out what is going to be the best for him.
Ok, so up until this point I have kept my mouth shut about everything and have been just reading the discussions about everything. To some degree I can understand Anwar, but in other aspects I cannot. Im not asexual so I cannot absolutely say I relate to him. But there are things here in this context that are completely relatable.
From my view point here, Anwar is completely inexperienced and what he does know is from his time with JD. Now that he has found Chris everything that he does know and doesn’t know is confusing him tremendously. Not to say that he is any less asexual, but what he brings to the table as far as expectations go or what he assumes the expectations are just got completely thrown out the window because Of Chris. Tab I applaud you for Chris’s character. He is understanding, he is wise, he is knowledgeable and is completely what Anwar needs. Chris is compassionate and doesn’t give into expectations or the should’s and should nots, he also isn’s black and white about things either. In both their cases it’s all about the self and the individual needs.
As for my own personal relations to this, Tab you have successfully made me question myself, my sexuality and helped me learn more of who I am.
To me, everything can be very much black and white. It was the biggest issue for me, especially delaying in me being able to express who I truly was. For so many years I couldn’t handle the fact that I just wasn’t interested in men, I was very much attracted to women as well. For me I either had to be straight or lesbian, not both. I also had a hard time being sexually active with partners. I just was never into at all. For most of my relationships, i just did things because I thought that it was expected. Then after I was raped by a women in my college years, I went from a “lipstick” lesbian (hate labels) to a “butch” lesbian. I cut off all my hair, wore guys clothes, and if I was ever with a woman, I did everything to them, but nothing was done to me. Then I was in a 3 year relationship with a woman and I was basically dying inside. I was starving myself of being truly me. It also didn’t help that the person I was with was abusive (physically, mentally, emotionally), cheated on me, and loved to play mind games. Thankfully I’m out of this relationship and I’m healing. Since then, I’ve really come into my own, and have learned so much about myself. I have learned to tell society and their expectations to go f$!k themselves.
I’m a bisexual woman, who loves sports, dressing up and looking sexy or dressing in jeans and a t-shirt who can go play football with the guys. I can’t do one night stands, if i’m having sex with someone, either they are my significant other or they are a friend with benefits that has the potential for more. I like super sporty, super in shape men who don’t mind being rough but can be gentle and treat me like a lady, I like women who treat me as a woman but an equal partner and want to be treated as such. I’m also the type of woman (if I ever fall in love again) that loves to have sex and often (every day 24/7/365) when I find that right person.
Now that I have gone on with this long ass tangent, here is my general reason for all this, a person should never ever be afraid to be who they nor should they ever suffocate who they are for the sake of expectations whether it is their family’s, society’s, or whom ever’s. Sexuality is fluid, there is no concrete way of being, it is a complicated, varying aspect of our human nature. It cannot be put into a box, it cannot be simplified into a label. We are each unique and beautiful.
If Anwar were real, I would tell him, just be you, don’t question you, go with your heart, your instincts, go with what is right for you. Don’t allow anyone to make you uncomfortable or to change you. The right person will love you for exactly who you no matter what.
With that, I leave this comment with love and “Be true to thy own self”