Shades After page 90
Get your conflict pants on Discordians, it’s time these two talked about this.
Last update before I’m off to NYC for Flamecon- if you haven’t seen I’m doing a T-shirt giveaway of the Gender nebula shirts to celebrate!
Remember the nebula shirt? I simplified the colour scheme down using a purple/pink (my favourite) and took a chance on it- yesterday they turned up and they look AMAZING. These will debut this weekend at Flamecon in NYC, and to celebrate before they’re available in the store I’m doing a giveaway.
RULES
– like or comment on facebook, tumblr or twitter to enter. If you share that would be lovely as more people have a chance to win one, but that’s not required to enter.
-This giveaway is in no way connected, endorsed or administered by facebook, tumblr or twitter and they are not held liable.
-Enter as many times as you like, but you can only win one shirt+badge set.
– On June 22 midday I’ll close all the entries across all the social media, count up the total and use a random number generator to select 3 winners.
-I’ll contact the winner using their entry method, if I don’t hear anything back in 3 days I’ll redraw.
-Anyone is eligible to enter as long as I can post a thing to them!
See ya at Flamecon!
Awww… ‘war. (all my comics are super angsty as of late, what’s up with that?)
Raven? Sorry, just that reference caught me off-guard, who/what is Raven? Cheers.
She (I think she was a woman?) is one of Chris’ doms :)
Oooooh, right. I can’t believe I forgot about this part of Chris’ life there for a minute. Right.
Right.
Awkward but needed conversations incoming, I guess.
I’m a regular cuddle client, and my erstwhile lover didn’t mind so long as she didn’t hear about it.
Oh, honey. :(
It’s a tough one, but for sure, if he’s still feeling like he needs to reassure himself, some good ole conversation is in order.
It pains me to say it, but that conversation should probably be had with clothes on…
Oh Anwar … please don’t cry in the tub. I know I’d probably be such a clusterfuck of emotions in his situation that I’d just cry with no warning.
Oh Anwar… this has no bearing on your relationship at all. :(
Oh wow, Tab, the gradient shading in the pages lately have been amazing! Total eye-candy :) But then again, I am biased because I loooove gradient shadows.
The Gender Nebula t-shirt looks awesome! Out of curiosity, where would genderless fall on the nebula? Smack in the middle or on neutral?
Genderless you just get to put outside the nebula, or at least I would. Just bop, right on the sleeve.
I would imagine not using a button at all might work as well.
Poor Anwar…Asking for a bath doesn’t seem like a bad idea to me. :( Nothing wrong with Anwar suggesting what he likes.
I’m kind of surprised that he likes the feeling of skin. I would have thought liking the feeling of bare skin was a sexual thing. (It’s that way for me at least. >.<) But Anwar is the first asexual character I've read about so it's interesting hearing what he is and isn't into.
I’ll just say as an ace person that asexuality is simply a lack of sexual attraction to people and has nothing to do with behavior. Every asexual person has different comfort levels concerning all types of touch and activity. While very many ace people are uncomfortable with sex to the point of repulsion, there are also a few aces who very much enjoy having sex. Anwar is just one (fictional) ace person and he definitely doesn’t show the huge range of possibilities. (Thanks for being so nice tho c: )
I can also concur as an ace that there are very different levels of contact desired depending on the individual. I’m a very cuddly ace. My husband looks at me and says “cuddles really are your sex, aren’t they?”. I love the feeling of skin agianst mine.
I personally find sex utterly repulsive, I can’t service my husband at all either (oral/hand) nor can I stomach being serviced, but I enjoy female breasts (giving and receiving).
Not to pry, but how did you explain that to your husband/people you care about so that they understood and didn’t think that it was just because you hadn’t “found the right person”?
I ask because I have a friend who doesn’t understand why it was so emotionally and mentally exhausting it was for me to have sex when I was dating my ex-boyfriend (with whom I broke up because I knew he wanted more from the relationship than I could give without it destroying me). I’ve tried explaining it, and she’s pretty understanding and accepting about the whole thing, but…let’s see if I can say this without accidentally misrepresenting her…
Oh. Side note, I’m a romantic asexual. I love physical contact with people, but I have enough friends that are either squeamish about physical contact or outright hate it that I actively avoid physical contact with people. Kind of a Pavlovian response, I guess. I made friends enough times and learned they didn’t like it that now any time I make a friend I assume they don’t.
What she said can essentially be simplified into: that if/when I ever get to a point where the rest of “a relationship” is, and if it’s emotionally supportive, then maybe we (potential partner and I) would work out the “sex/no sex thing”, and maybe I wouldn’t find it as exhausting/no fun as I presently do because “it wouldn’t be some artificial thing [I] was trying to force, but something that happened because [I] *felt* it”.
I’m right there with you Anwar. Knowing the person you love is doing things with someone else is agonizing. Im so sorry.
Hooray for binge-reading instead of sleeping! Just as good as any dreams I would have been having anyway :b
Aaaaand Chris is going to have marks, isn’t he?
Talking about any sort of poly-ness in a relationship is good! But can be difficult. Looking forward to where this goes.
I hope this resolves happily, but I have faith that it will.